I could have written this post.
My story. I went in to see my primary care physician to discuss depression. We never did because as soon as she entered the room, she took one look at me, said I looked anorexic and she insisted that I see a specialist. To make a long story short, I have settled on both my psychologist and psychiatrist and while working with my primary care physician have reached the conclusion that I am not anorexic because I never thought I was fat and technically, always keep my BMI high enough. The conclusion was the I suffered from depression and obsessive compulsive disorder. The OCD has always moved from one thing or another and this time it settled on "being healthy".
I had accepted that McDougall was probably the healthiest way to eat for me, but never truly followed the diet. I was strict. Unbelievably strict. So strict that I was eating the bare minimum to function. I was never really hungry because I would fill myself up with vegetables and beans. Lots of veggies. Everyone though I was eating a ton of food, but if you added up the calories and compared to my activity, it was clear I was barely functioning.
Now I am truly McDougall'ing while under going treatment for both depression and OCD, including weekly therapy sessions. The therapy is tremendous. I finally feel human. I have developed a list (love that OCD
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) of guidelines, not rules. Here are my guidelines for those like me, which I hope is very, very few because after the hell I've been threw, I pray that no one else goes through it. I am sorry for the curse word, but it's the only word the fits. I am also sorry for all the worry I caused my friends and family.
Many of these guidelines are from this website, another board I like to frequent, therapy and independent research. They are only guidelines and highly personable.
1) Sleep. I don't need more than 5 hours a night. They call it sleep deprivation therapy, but I don't think it is really deprivation because I do not use an alarm clock and do not force myself to get up. I simply have accepted that after years of thinking there was something wrong with me because I could only sleep 5 hrs, often just 4, it turns out that's all I need. Forcing myself to sleep more was only causing stress and depriving my brain of serotonin generation time.
2) Sunshine. Need more sunshine. Lightens the mood, lightens the heart. The only problem is I live in Florida (but wish I was in Buffalo) where it can get quite warm. Solution? Sunrises and sunset. Not only are they beautiful here, but they offer sunshine without blazing heat.
3) Eat McDougall style which is high starch, low protein and low fat, at least according to American standards. I live a very simplified McDougall life. Oats and fruits before noon, rice (or sweet potatoes) and veggies after noon. All the foods I love.
4) Simple life. I don't need much to be happy. In fact, the more I have, the more depressed I become. The less I have, as long as the necessities are met, the happier I am. I donated much of what I had to charity and simply enjoy the simple things in life. Makes things so much easier. Live simply to simply live.
5) Exercise. Again, help the mind to generate serotonin. I have to be careful that it doesn't an OCD however. Can't have one of the treatments for depression leave to an increase in OCD.
6) Celebrate the little things. Sit back on Saturday and watch the Ohio State Buckeyes play football. It doesn't make me lazy and I shouldn't feel for doing so.
7) Live one day at a time, one hour at a time, 1 minute at a time, 1 moment at a time. Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift, that's why they call it the present. Or something like that. I stole it from the movie 'Kung Fu Panda' and I'm sure they stole it from somewhere.
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Have a hobby. For me, it's taking pictures. Especially of my family, animals and scenery.
9) Have a dog. Something to take care of you gives you purpose and meaning. I love dogs. Always forgiving, always loving, never judgmental.
10) Have some omega-3s. Yes I know it's fat, but a tablespoon of ground flaxseed on my oatmeal in the morning seems to be helping more than it is hurting. I think a limited amount of flaxseed has become acceptable, but not 100% sure.
11) Be active with friends and family. Create a supportive social circle.
12) Meditate. I try for 15 minutes every morning. Not sure if I'm really meditating or just relaxing, but before breakfast and I will sit by myself and without distractions (music, internet, other people) focusing on breathing and just breathing. Nice deep breaths while sitting comfortably. Since I need only 4 to 5 hours of sleep a night, early morning works best. Usually around 3AM works for me.
13) Face obsessions head on. For example, I used to obsessively measure my food. Calorie control which is NOT McDougall. I forced myself to stop. Trust that you don't need to measure because this is a naturally healthy way of eating, especially when you have simplified it as much as I have. Other obsessions are remaining to be tackled though, and I have found that my obsessions will often simply shift. I will stop obsession about this and start obsessing about that. Need to remain diligent in other words.
I too was reading absolutely everything (I've read everything listed in this thread and more) I could get my hands about eating healthy. Donated it all to the library and simply follow the McDougall plan. As long as I'm eating plenty of starches, no one seems to bother me about eating "too healthy". I too have taken up reading less serious works. Right now I'm reading a book called "Five Families" which has nothing to do with eating or healthy living.
I know some people think I'm too thin, but my BMI is between 19 and 20 which is fine and I accept that. Many of the people who think I'm too think have BMI > 25 and the belly to back it up. Consequently, I don't feel judged for living a low fat, low protein, vegan life. I don't like the term diet because it implies temporary when I mean diet as in permanent style of eating. I'm not afraid of high fat food, or high sugar food, it is just food. I just don't want to eat it. Rather have oats, rice, sweet potatoes, veggies and of course fruit.
If you are still reading this, then thank you for taking the time to listen my story. I love to communicate, but often fear others don't want to hear from me. Part of my low self-esteem I suppose. I'm working on that too.
Enjoy your evenings everyone...