Chuck, he is a brave man.
I am very proud of him, because it's not easy being a trailblazer. Please take into consideration that we live in the heart of Canadian cattle country, so he is even more heretical. What has worked for us is that most meals I pack him lunch. It is often just leftovers of supper with fruit and veggies, but it is amazing how many people have no clue he is vegetarian because he just doesn't make a big deal of it. He stopped eating at the work cafeteria years ago because it was just nasty by any standards. When he has a meeting at work he normally orders the food and always gets a vegetarian menu. Fortunately, there are a fair number of Seikh's (?sp) and Hindus who don't eat meat for religious reasons, so the vegetarian food often goes first. (I suspect it is not vegan or low fat always, however.)
I think he uses me as an excuse sometimes and I'm happy to be one. I was born with congenital heart disease and had to have a valve replaced almost two years ago now. Needless to say, most people are quite understanding that we would take our nutrition very seriously. He has told the few people who have been cutting that he does it to support me. They have a hard time arguing with that.
Bravo for you for changing the poker menu! I bet you are right and people just didn't notice. If you made a big deal about it you likely would have been ribbed in a manly way
. Especially if they detect insecurity. I actually find it easier to entertain and be in charge of the menu because people don't honestly think much of vegan meals being served unless you rub it in their face. Eating at other people's homes can be a little trickier. But, you are obviously an intelligent man--breastfeeding wife, 2 girls, engineer and McDougaller to boot--and I am sure you will find your way with time. And just wait til you you start losing weight and it shows (my husband lost about 30 pounds effortlessly) and they want to know what you are doing. They will be very, very interested. At least until you tell them they can't have steak.
Is your wife McDougalling too? And the girls?