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Dissolution wrote:Wow, lots of comments...
Ok for the most part I am a very calm individual. When she bitches about smells or makes her nasty comments, she gets very little if any reaction from me. She's used to this. I will attempt to discuss things with her, sometimes. Most of the time though, I wind up just walking away. She calls this me being "emotionally dead".
When our oldest was 15, he was very ummm, let's say "spirited". She eventually had to stop disciplining him, because the two of them would wind up screaming at each other and she would be crying and the boy would be grounded for 6 months. Once I took over and he couldn't get that reaction out of me, his tantrums greatly diminished.
One of the few times I truly got very angry at her was when I was trying to explain food addiction to her. The concept seems to allude her, like she doesn't see how it's even possible to be addicted to food. My point was always that food addiction was the worst, because you HAVE to eat, you don't have to smoke, or drink, do drugs. This has been a few years ago, but I go very very angry, I think I punched a hole in a wall or broke something.
I guess the point I am getting at is, she doesn't believe in food addiction. She truly thinks that the ONLY reason she is obese is because she messed up her metabolism when she was a teenager and trying to diet by not eating food. She has told many people that she doesn't eat enough food in a day to keep a small child alive, and she really believes that. I tried to get her to count calories, or points or just keep a food diary. Her reaction was to accuse me of calling her a fat cow that does nothing but eat. I simply said, "I think you eat more than you think you do.".
With that kind of twisted view of food and food addiction, and her honestly believing that a vegan diet is dangerous. I didn't think that her "put something in your food" comment was as sinister as I'm sure it seems to a lot of you. That or my head is just not in the right place and I'm covering for her and making excuses.
It looked like she might have been researching something on her computer when I got back from my walk this morning. Looked like a picture of a clogged artery. She hasn't said anything yet.
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