by carollynne » Fri Jan 20, 2012 4:01 am Good Morning to you , Dis! So she had some oatmeal !! That was one thing my DH did recently too. His excuse of why he would do that all the time is that they always had so much oatmeal growing up in Philly.
they all do get very loud, and I need ear plugs, or just go into another room, and they just need to be so special, or think they are, and be heard above all the others.... too many chiefs and no Indians all the time!
Great about teh plant strong, but why aren't you a vegan then, just going by the term starch based? That is my favorite wary of explaining it to any of the pool pals at the gym. There is one lady, whose Dh is a retired cop, and minister too, and his entire family tree has a liver disorder, that has to do with the iron not digesting and it ruin the liver and they all get cirrhosis from it. So she was the one who really understood me when I said, I get plenty of protein from plant sources. So he has been on a very restricted diet of no iron in food, like all meats, and grains too. She always backed me up with the other ladies were aghast about my no animal products luncheons with them. bless her heart she'd chime right in with oh yes you can get all the protein you need from what she eats, just ask my husband's doctor...
Her light day look so high in salt and fat that I am amazed she has not had a heart attack. You had one and it still took a while to change... So I am hoping for the best for your family...
And here I thought you were a writer by trade by the style you write so easily!
Hey, I once told DH that I really wanted him to get healthy with me, and he seemed to just nod like he understood. then he waited a few more months to see if the kick was still there (for me as a plant strong person) and since it is, he has decided to for the no alcohol route first, and says he will do it for 5 yrs, and get a brand new liver... ... he does loves my bean dishes, and last night I had prepared a 15 beans (+) soup, with my own stewed toms, soaked the beans, let them sprout etc! lots of spices, and some b. vinegar.....
and frozen veggies thrown in for good measure.
Personally I would not tell her anymore at all. Let he come to her own conclusions and decide to act on her own. It really did take about a year or more til my DH wants to join me on the journey and gave up asking me to eat at restaurants for huge SAD meals. I am still in a state of shock that he has not had a drink for what almost 3 weeks now? We have a few bottles of wine too, for cooking sauces and one bottle of Ghluwein from Christmas time (at the PX) and he would have polished off all of that by now plus his cases of beer... so I am in shock. I think one day you will be too, with your wifey.
Have a good day!! Hope the loving feeling continues in your house!
) This cabbage/pea stuff is really simple to make. I usually just start with black mustard seeds. Pop 'em. Add a ton of slivered cabbage (okay, at least half a head), and cook it down a bit. You might need to add a bit of water. When it's wilted down, I add some ground cumin and turmeric, salt and a little black pepper. Last thing I do is stir in frozen peas. Cook until peas thaw and are heated through. I don't like peas overcooked. This is a great side for Indian dals and potato dishes and chapatis, and it's good by itself too. Leftovers are also good. There are many versions of Indian cabbage and peas online, using various spice combos. Some add onions. 
I don't eat animal flesh, but I'll eat honey. The thought of eating flesh just gives me the heebie--jeebies now. Guess I'm okay with bug spit. 
Gag. I couldn't eat chicken for a year after that. I didn't much like the taste of her birds anyway. I always said I preferred the chemically-treated, hormone-laced store-bought meat because the other homegrown and hunted stuff tasted wild. I think the "wild" I was tasting is life. The factory-farmed stuff in the supermarket is death. Anyway, all this is to say, I think I've been where your wife is at in her thought processes concerning meat. It's not something I ever thought I'd want or choose to give up eating, and I was pretty vocal about that. Like you, I started down this path for personal health reasons, but I think our "health" is bigger than the foods on our plates. There's a mental component. The intentional disconnect we have from our food sources is itself a kind of disease. Headinthesanditis. We're like dumb junkies who really don't want to know about the poisons that our drugs have been cut with. We prefer ignorance and another cheap high. Humans can talk themselves into anything if it's easy and feels good. Even a starch-based diet. Somebody's just gotta plant that seed. If your wife isn't willing to eliminate meat, dairy, and oil, well that's where she's at. That doesn't mean she can't start adding in more starches. Dr. McDougall recommends that approach in his latest newsletter. 
) the worst thing you can do is tell them "No, you can't/shouldn't ever." That just makes us stand taller and scream "yes, I can/will always!" that much louder. We can drown you out 'til death us do part. 
