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Leslie! Yeah, I feel bad for her, too. The first two years she had it, she did not get much relief despite the drugs, because she refused prednisone. She knows the downside of this medication; her dad is a doctor. At the same time, her dad is a doctor, and so she doesn't believe in dietary treatment of U.C.!
She even went as far as to make fun (privately) of another friend who has U.C. that is controlled by diet, saying it is all in his head, and sort of acting like he is some sort of new-agey wuss. (The kind prone to lickin' crystals, no doubt
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The she went into a remission of many months, and I dare say she believed herself cured. She then had a terrible flare up and absolutely
had to be on prednisone for 6 months. She hated it so much. I felt really bad for her then.
She does know some of her dietary triggers - seeds of all kinds, some grains - and she avoids them, yet she also knows about others - beer, coffee and dairy - but does not avoid them, because she likes them. She gets angry at the idea of "having to change" for this disease, and really,
really wants to think of herself as totally normal. I can relate! Since changing her diet would be a concession to the fact that she is really sick, she resists it mightily.
She is a limit-tester, too; always has been. So it is hard for her not to get into a situation where she is exhausted because she has taken on many ambitious projects. That is another way I think she resists the U.C.
My hope is that with time, and with the observation of my own progress, she'll be more open to changing her diet. I know her DH is open to it! He asked me tons of questions about y diet last time we saw them in person. He is constantly worried about how she does not take care, and I know he has to pick up the slack when she flares so he has a vested interest in her health and it's effects on his own day-to-day life, too. He has to do things like remind her to not have a third coffee, or a pastry, Can't be fun for him.
I know my DH breathed a huge sigh of relief when I started taking better responsibility for my own health, in terms of pacing myself and resting. It is sometimes not fair to others to be in denial of your own illness.
But we will have to wait and see.
Nicole